How to Finally Trust Yourself (Even When You’ve Been Gaslit, Dismissed, or Ignored)
How to Finally Trust Yourself (Even When You’ve Been Gaslit, Dismissed, or Ignored).
Hello Awakening Soul,
If your mind feels like a never-ending debate club…
If you’re constantly asking, “What if I get it wrong?”...
If you go looking for confirmation, advice, signs, and reassurance before you act...
You're not indecisive.
You're disconnected from your inner voice.
And it’s time to change that.
🔄 Second-Guessing Is a Trauma Response, Not a Personality Trait
Let’s call this what it is.
If you were raised in an environment where:
You were punished for making mistakes
Your emotions were minimized or shamed
You had to earn love through performance
You weren’t allowed to trust your instincts…
Then of course you second-guess yourself.
You were trained to.
But here’s the truth: You were never meant to outsource your wisdom.
We live in a time where we can feel more disconnected than ever, even though we have the illusion of being constantly connected. What do I mean? We see people on social media but we don’t feel a genuine connection. It’s harder than ever to feel truly seen and heard.
Notice that I keep saying feel, not think? There’s a reason for that. Michael Singer once said, “The head is the place the soul goes to hide from the heart.” When we think, we dissociate. When we actively feel and sense, we cultivate connection.
🌬️ Why You Can’t “Think” Your Way to Confidence
Confidence isn’t built in the mind.
It’s built in the nervous system.
Your inner voice doesn’t speak in logic.
It speaks in resonance, felt-sense, body wisdom.
Every time you bypass that for “what makes sense,” you cut off your own guidance.
Visualize this: at the center of your heart is a spark of Light, also known as the seed of your soul. Covering the Light is your subtle body which includes the energy of emotions, memories, etc. Eckhart Tolle called this the ‘pain body’. Even further out from your center is your thinking body, or mental consciousness. So, if you habitually think then first you have to move from your thinking body into your feeling body. Then you move through the feeling / subtle / pain body to get to your Self and hear the inner whispers.
Good news, you don’t have to heal or clear your pain body to start doing this. You just have to hone your listening, or awareness, skills so that you can tune in more efficiently.
The more you do your healing work, feeling and releasing emotions and beliefs, connecting with your body as sensation, pausing to listen, the easier it all gets.
🔄 The Spiral of Self-Doubt (and How to Interrupt It)
The Pattern:
You get a gut feeling
You question it
You ask for opinions
You override your knowing
You regret it
You stop trusting yourself even more
The Disrupt:
PAUSE. Breathe.
Ask: “If I knew what to do… what would I do?”
Sit in stillness long enough to let the mind get quiet
Choose anyway—even if it’s scary
“Clarity doesn’t always feel safe. It feels honest.”
Remember: we are not born resilient. We become resilient by doing hard things!
🔑 Self-Trust Is Built One Choice at a Time
Start with the small:
Eat what your body craves
Rest when you feel tired—even if no one else is
Say no without over-explaining
Speak your truth in low-stakes moments
Each time you honor your inner voice, you build trust.
Each time you override it, you weaken the connection.
🧘♀️ Practice: The 3-Minute Intuition Drop-In
Try this daily for the next week (set a timer on your phone so that you can settle into it):
Hand on heart. Hand on gut.
Inhale: “I am listening.”
Exhale: “I trust myself.”
Ask: “What do I need to know right now?”
Journal what comes up—no censoring, no doubting.
💥 You Are the Oracle
You do not need more advice.
You do not need to explain yourself to be valid.
You do not need to wait for clarity to move forward.
You are the source.
You are the authority.
You are the leader of your life.
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The mind is loud. The soul is subtle.
Choose to listen anyway.
I see the Light in you, and it is brilliant. I want you to see it too!
Brightest of blessings,
Dawn xo
The Awakening Light
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